善待自己 做最好的自己才能更好地爱人

I used to believe that love meant putting everyone else and their needs first, before my own. While I do think there is some truth to that, in the sense that being a giving person is one of the ultimate acts of being a loving person, I came to realize that I must give to and love myself first and foremost.

善待自己 做最好的自己才能更好地爱人
Here’s why:
When you put everyone and everything else above you, you are no longer valuing yourself and your needs. And when you are not meeting your needs, and you don’t take care of yourself (emotionally, physically1, mentally, spiritually), you can’t be the best version of yourself to the special people in your life. So in essence, you don’t love them at your full potential!
Here are some things to consider —
1. Are you physically taking care of yourself? Do you nourish yourself with the right foods, get enough sleep, exercise, are at a healthy weight, and on top of your check-ups? If not, I bet your energy is low, you’re tired and stressed, and your confidence isn’t the highest (because you probably don’t feel your best). Now think about how much more you could give to others when you aren’t exhausted2, you’re happy with what you see in the mirror, and you aren’t on edge with stress.
2. Are you emotionally and mentally healthy? As humans, we’re so complex and having ups and downs is normal. But in general, assess where you stand emotionally. If it’s in a healthy place and you can manage your emotions in a healthy way — great! But if you self-soothe in destructive ways and have a negative attitude and energy about you, realize that it’s not just affecting you, but others too. When you aren’t an emotionally and mentally healthy person, that energy pours into everything you do, and everyone you’re around will feel the effects, too.
3. How’s your spirituality? In this sense, spirituality is about having an ultimate purpose and being in tune3 with your true self. Do you wake up every day excited for what your life is about, and have gratitude4 for all the abundance you already have? If not, you may not be listening and living to what your heart truly desires. Living this way long term, may affect the essence of your inner being and, in turn, may not allow you to show up your very best for the world.
Be kind to yourself. It can be difficult to put your health and wellbeing first when life is demanding between your career, family, friendships, relationships, and so on. If you can think of any ways to improve your wellbeing and love yourself more, start today! Take a baby step towards this. Perhaps try getting an hour more of sleep. Move your body in a way that feels good. Take time for yourself to be with your thoughts and without distractions5 and feel that peace.
1 physically   [ˈfɪzɪkli]     
He was out of sorts physically,as well as disordered mentally.他浑身不舒服,心绪也很乱。
Every time I think about it I feel physically sick.一想起那件事我就感到极恶心。
2 exhausted  [ɪgˈzɔ:stɪd]   
It was a long haul home and we arrived exhausted.搬运回家的这段路程特别长,到家时我们已筋疲力尽。
Jenny was exhausted by the hustle of city life.珍妮被城市生活的忙乱弄得筋疲力尽。
3 tune   [tju:n]     
He’d written a tune,and played it to us on the piano.他写了一段曲子,并在钢琴上弹给我们听。
The boy beat out a tune on a tin can.那男孩在易拉罐上敲出一首曲子。
4 gratitude  [ˈgrætɪtju:d]     
I have expressed the depth of my gratitude to him.我向他表示了深切的谢意。
She could not help her tears of gratitude rolling down her face.她感激的泪珠禁不住沿着面颊流了下来。
5 distractions  [dɪˈstrækʃənz]    
n.使人分心的事[人]( distraction的名词复数 );娱乐,消遣;心烦意乱;精神错乱
I find it hard to work at home because there are too many distractions. 我发觉在家里工作很难,因为使人分心的事太多。
There are too many distractions here to work properly. 这里叫人分心的事太多,使人无法好好工作。 来自《简明英汉词典》

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该日志由 1zanxin 于2016年05月17日发表在 双语阅读 分类下,
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